My car has a running light that is out, and my 17 year old son is a mechanical engineer, or rather he’s going to school to be one. So he knows what he’s doing. So I asked him if he would mind going and getting the bulb and installing the light for me and he said he would. So he’s supposed to come over tomorrow and do it. So I suggested he have lunch here and ask his sister to come too, my daughter, and I will fix them both lunch. They both acted like it was a great idea, and they would both be over tomorrow. This evening, I get a message from my daughter telling me that her father will not let her come over here. Now, it’s been 6 years and she’s never been to my house nor has he ever spent the night at my house. But, her father says I don’t do anything positive for them. I don’t work right now because I have had two back surgeries. I got money for my birthday in November and gave all of it to both kids plus I bought them dinner out at a restaurant. This Christmas, I busted my butt and I cleaned Apartments and made just enough money to give them a little something each for Christmas. I told her, if that’s not something positive, then I don’t know what is. She asked me to talk to him, and I told her no, because every time we talk we get into a humongous fight. I talked to my brother tonight and in a few days he is going to call him and remind him of all the bad things he used to do and he knows just what to say. So my son doesn’t care what his dad says and he’s coming over to fix my car and have lunch no matter what. I asked him to talk to his sister about it, and whether he does or not I don’t know but she’s at the point now she just doesn’t want to talk about it because he’s putting her in the middle, not me. That’s not fair to her and it hurts me. Anyway, I was so upset this evening I thought I would share this blog with everyone. I’m glad that I’m going to see my son tomorrow, and I’m glad that he’s standing his ground and standing up to his father who has ruled his life for the past 6 years, I think he finally got tired of it and basically said f**** you and I’m going to do what I want. I told him how proud I was of him and he’s coming tomorrow to fix my car and have lunch. Whether my daughter shows up or not, I don’t know. But one of the time, I guess.
NARCISSISM AT ITS BEST….
I was talking to my 17 yr old on the phone today, and his father(the Narcissist), has always been a die hard Bronco’s fan, even though he is from Baltimore. His best friend is a die-hard Redskins fan, and they would always go to the games together when they would play one another. I noticed they we’re playing each other today, so I asked my seventeen-year-old, Kyle, if his dad and Chuck, his best friend, were at the game. He told me no, and that his dad does not watch football anymore. And I said, that must be because the Broncos suck so bad this year. And he said oh no, he doesn’t watch it because the players were kneeling and not standing during the national anthem. I was with that man for 13 years and he does not have a patriotic bone in his body. He has never served in the armed forces, and really could care less about that type of thing. I told my 17 year old that I guarantee that his father is not watching football this year because the Broncos suck, and that he is not loyal and is a fair weather fan. Regardless, my seventeen-year-old didn’t have a whole lot to say about the whole thing, but narcissists have to win at all costs, so when he saw how bad the Broncos were doing, that was his excuse as to why he was not watching football this year. I found it hysterical because I knew the real reason as to why he wasn’t watching football, but he has his son believing everything he says which leads into the parental alienation deal. I just thought I would share that because that is a great example of narcissism at its best.
See “Parental Alienation is Child Abuse”…….
My ex couldn’t be more of a narrcissist if God Himself told him he was perfect in every way. It’s disgusting that someone actually believes he/she is right about everything they say or do. No one is perfect except for God/Jesus, and he puts himself right up there with Them. He has an answer to everything, even if he knows he’s wrong….he would never admit it. And if he is ever complimented on anything, his head would blow up more than it already is, and that’s BIIIG‼️. 😵. Beware of anyone who thinks so highly of themself. ☠️Never get into a relationship with anyone like that.👨❤️👨 They are in love with no one except their self, so don’t waste your time!!!🕸️ Don’t get caught in their web of deceit!
Hi, my name is Cheryl, and I’m a Mother of 3 beautiful children. My oldest, 21, isn’t a child anymore. He doesn’t fit into my story because I had him with my ex husband, who isn’t narrcisstic, or never tried to “parental alienate”. It was my ex boyfriend of 13 years, who I had my other 2 children with, who is a sociopath narrcisstic parental alienator. Try dealing with someone like that…..not fun, and you’re never right. He not only thinks he can walk on water, turn water into wine, and heal the blind, but he took my 2 children when they were 11 and 12 ( my kids with him are 360 days apart) the oldest, a boy named Kyle, and his sister, Amanda, and poisoned their young minds….yes, he brainwashed them. I had them on my own pretty much their whole lives up until he got his hands on them. My daughter was my shadow, never wanting to leave my side, now, she doesn’t even text me, I have to text her, and it’s like pulling teeth to get any information out of her. Their dad was in and out of jail our whole relationship, but God for bid if the past is ever brought up…. that’s not allowed. Nor is it allowed to talk about how he robbed my parents blind, stole a registered pistol from one of his “friends” while doing some electric work for him, and stealing a wedding ring from another “friends” home. Co-parenting is non-existent, and he has all the control, I have none. I have been working on reversing the brain washing process on my kids since they are older now (16 & 17). Parental Alienation is Child Abuse no matter how you look at it. A mom could do it to a dad, and vice versa. So, if you suspect your ex is partaking in Parental Alienation, I suggest you get all the info you can on the subject, and make your ex suffer, just like you have.
- My name is Cheryl, and I am a 45 yr. old Mother of 3. I have 2 boys and a girl. My oldest, Nicholas (21) is a very talented, smart, handsome, polite young man. Fortunately, I had him with my ex-husband, so he doesn’t fit into my story. His father and I divorced when he was 2 years old. Then, I met the father of my other two children. Kyle, (17), and Amanda(16).
- I met Steve, Kyle and Mandy’s father in 1998, and we were together for 13 years. Throughout our relationship, he was in and out of jail many times. For the majority of our relationship, the kids lived with me at my parents home in Maryland. He never paid a penny in child support the entire time. However, he did see them when he wanted and I did take them to visit him while he was in jail. My mom passed away in 2012, and that’s when everything fell apart. My dad sold the house we were living in, so I had to find housing. I had no idea where I was going to go, let alone my children. Steve was released from jail in November of 2012. He lived in a halfway house for about 6 months before returning to his parents home. At the time, they lived in Catonsville, but bought a home in Howard County, which is where my dad lived before he sold his home. So really, it only made sense that the kids would go live with him at his parents house so they could attend the same school that they were. And, I had no idea where I was going to go anyway. Meanwhile, Steve had papers drawn up from his lawyer and told me that they just said that the kids would live with him until I got back on my feet again. The school needed this so they could continue attending. I had no reason to disbelieve him, because we were together for 13 years, and he never lied to me in the past. So, I signed the papers and we had them notarized. Come to find out, the papers that I signed gave him 100% custody. Legal and Custodial. As for visitation, nothing was set in stone. It just stated that the mother and father would agree upon visitation. That gave him all of the Power, and me, absolutely none. To make a long story short, for the past four to five years, the kids have been living with her father about 20 minutes away from me and I see them about 5 times a year. A lot of that has to do with them being teenagers and being extremely busy in their lives, but they have never once spent the night at my home in Columbia Maryland, which is about 20 minutes away from Ellicott City Maryland where they live with their father. And that has to do with Steve not liking my boyfriend/ fiance, Carl. The only reason he doesn’t like him is because I broke up with him for Carl. I did so mainly because he was in jail and I thought he would be in and out of jail his entire life. To my surprise, he has remained sober, as far as I know, ever since the day he got out of jail back in 2012. He has the main telephone for their cell phones, so when we have a a disagreement over the phone, he takes it out on me and the kids by blocking my telephone so I have no communication with my kids whatsoever. He has done this three times, once for a month. He got remarried about a year after we split up and his new wife does not like me and I believe she is whispering things in his ear so to speak. Steve is a major narcissist, which does not help the situation at all. I believe his wife may be one as well. She tries to act as if she is my kids Mother, and posts pics of my kids with her, on Facebook with the caption pertaining to the kids being hers. I have dealt with all of this for a few years now. Thank God my son will be 18 in June. My daughter has another year and a few months. I haven’t spoken to my ex in a few months now, and it has been great. I wanted to put this blog out there (my story), so ppl can read it, and take proper action and precaution so that this does not happen to them. If anyone has any questions, please feel free to reply to my blog. Thanks so much for reading ‼️
Why I began this Blog……
I began this Blog because I am a victim of Parental Alienation. I was with a narcissist for 13 years, and had 2 children with him. I am trying to get the word out to anyone who may have had any experience with either parental alienation, or was in a relationship with a narcissist. Please feel free to email me, or reply to any of my blogs if you have any questions or comments or concerns. Cdeltuva3@gmail.com